It’s been a while, WPeeps. My life has been too busy for me to make time for me, as I’d feared it would become. As arbitrary as the gateway of New Year’s is, it’s always a good time for reflection. I want to say so many things about 2014, but I’d really like to talk about what’s ahead in 2015. So let’s get on with the recap and pre-cap:
Looking back at 2014: How’d I do?
Here are some of the things that have happened in 2014.
- I’m back in the classroom, teaching 6th grade math full-time. I’m using my classroom time to learn more about how students learn, and to get reconnected to schools. I go to work daily knowing what needs to be achieved in a day, and I try my best to do it. I’m really enjoying being part of a lovely and supportive staff that treats each other like family — the good and bad of family — and I accept dynamics for what they are. I work (mostly) efficiently and constantly from about 7am to 6pm, but I try to leave work at work, and spend minimal time outside of work on work things. CHECK: Professional, stable, sustainable, prosperous, productive, appreciative, confident, educational. NOT QUITE: less angry…or clean.
- I’m going to be part of a founding team at a new high-tech school next year, and serving as the head of instructional technology. I am excited to flex all my experiences building culture and systems for students and staff, and grow and learn in this new professional opportunity. CHECK: Professional, proactive, productive, fearless, confident, and exciting! NOT QUITE: fearless. Not quite fearless. There is some fear that is not quite latent. It could be disguised as excitement. Or gas.
- I had a huge closet edit in June – my friend Kattie came over and brutally edited out two-thirds of my closet, and made me throw away things that I loved dearly, like a lot of my hand-knits that really didn’t fit well (and were mostly boleros because I got lazy about finishing objects…and decided they were long enough). In addition to the closet edit, I did a large makeup edit as well and have had more fun learning how to use my makeup and wearing makeup. There’s more editing to be done, but the purge was a good start. CHECK: Fashionable, appreciative, confident, reflective. NOT QUITE: Well, fashionable is always a work in progress. Maybe I should stick to confident. I feel better about my clothes and makeup.
- There’s a baby on the way in 2015. Any day now in the next 5 weeks of 2015, actually. This has forced me to manage my diabetes in a rather rapid and drastic fashion. I now do multiple finger-sticks a day. I take insulin regularly (at least 4 more needles a day). I’ve even managed to lower my A1C to a normal level (from a high of 13+ to last recorded 5.4). I’m not even sure what that means for my diabetes post-pregnancy. One hopes for “cure” or reversal, but I have come to terms with what lifetime management of the disease might look like. I have managed to only gain about 12 pounds throughout this pregnancy by keeping mildly active (I guess my gym apathy earlier in the spring was due to regular exhaustion) and watching what I eat somewhat carefully. I use a Fitbit with some regularity to help monitor my insulin needs as well as try to maintain some baseline activity. CHECK: healthy, proactive, physically “active”, and definitely (re)productive. NOT QUITE: fearless and exciting. More on that as we move to 2015.
2015: O. M. G. What have we done?!
Yeah. A baby. I could tell all the stories of what it’s been like so far, but after doing my share of surfing around on the internets, it’s really nothing earth-shattering that’s happened in this duration of gestation. I’ve been REALLY tired. I’ve seen MANY doctors. Everything looks NORMAL. Worst symptom: rhinitis and exhaustion. Best symptom: getting my ass in gear about my diabetes.
So I guess I’ll just tackle the hopes and fears for 2015.
- That I won’t be able to be myself anymore. All the things that I have just come to terms with about myself over the last (nearly 4) decades — that’s all about to be “something else” that I don’t even know. I worry that my foodie love life is over. I worry that I will never travel again. I worry that my crafting days are over. I worry that my hard-working days are over, and I’ll have to be more flexible about my “get it done” compulsion. I haven’t finished a craft since June or so. I’m missing a 2nd snowboard season in a row. Life is over as I know it. Everyone keeps telling me this, and I get it. I even get the fact that I don’t even “get it” yet.
- That my house will never be clean again. That the construction here will never be finished due to time, money, and priorities. That our “home” is on indefinite hold. I have a few posts in draft mode brewing about this “lifestyle” that is our home, but I haven’t fleshed them out yet. In short, we bought a fixer-upper, and we’ve been working on it for upwards of 2 years. We’re not done. We’ll never be done. And now, we’re racing time to get ourselves to a state where we can live here with a baby. I’m confident we’ll make do if we don’t make it in time, but it’s definitely a fear that weighs on my mind constantly. We haven’t had many guests over since March because it’s been that much of a disaster.
- I won’t know how to be a mother. I’m not excited yet — it’s mostly been panic and fear. Every melting down child around me that I’ve seen in the past few months paralyzes me with fear. My kid is going to be that guy in the grocery store melting down because they can’t have something NOW. My kid is going to be the one that makes themselves so anxious that they force themselves to vomit. My kid is going to be THAT GUY, whatever that guy is. So. Afraid. And I’d like to say that I have high parenting standards, but I know that 1) I have no idea what my standards are at this point, and 2) every single kid is different. So regardless of genetics or my upbringing, I have NO IDEA. Terrifying. And this is not the extent of my fears about my child, but it’s a starting point for me to articulate some of this fear.
- I can still have my own goals for 2015. I started a list on my Notes of things I wanted to accomplish in 2015.
- I can still grow at work now that work-life balance is about to take on an entirely different meaning. I have so many things that I want out of work for next year, for myself, for my community, and for the students that we are going to serve in the school. It is exciting, and I hope that I have the capacity to accomplish what I want or accept my limitations and still do my best.
- I will have time to write and reflect and save memories for the future. I have taken very few “maternity” pictures or recorded few moments in the latter half or 2014…but I need to work on preserving memories for people beyond myself now.
- I will learn more about our growing family and what it means to be a family beyond cats (and dogs).
We’ve already had a lot of challenges getting ready, and I KNOW we’ll never be ready, but oh well, time’s up and here we go…I hope we’re prepared for 2015. Because it’s January 1, and 2015 is here, and it’s time to buckle up for the crazy ride.
Happy New Year, happy 2015 to all!